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Sex & Love [09 Mar 2009|10:09pm]
I do not want it to be thought that i hate Christians. I am a Christian I just don't think Christians have this whole sex thing really figured out yet, not saying that I do, I mean i am almost 20 growing up in the age of causal sex but i think there have been various reasons that aren't from God that Christians have been using against homosexuality and I am outraged that a lot of Christians, especially Christian men will not take responsibility for their sexuality but would be willing to do horrible things to another human being on the basis of theirs.

Sex & Bonding

It amazes me to no end the atrocity of a teleological argument against homosexuality. The idea that homosexuality is wrong because sex is for baby-making only is preposterous. I also don’t think most of these people would like to denounce sex within marriage between a man and a woman that does not produce children, or masturbation for that matter. Sex is used within marriage as an emotional connection between man and wife. Sex is healthy for human beings physically. Sex has long lasting emotional repercussions because sex is a bonding mechanism. The same hormone that is released when a mother nurses her baby, which is an activity that bonds the two together on a biological level, is released when adoptive parents meet their new baby, the release of this hormone is shown to be an emotionally bonding experience. This same hormone is released during orgasm. Biologically sex is a bonding tool not just a tool for reproduction. Sex can help a marriage because of the physical, biological bonding that happens during the act.
Some Christians argue that is why sex should be reserved only for marriage and the first sexual act should be one that brings the couple together in holy matrimony. What a lot of Christians and non-religious peoples who would argue against homosexuality would say is that that bonding has been reserved only for men and women. I do not agree. If you are going to go with the grounds that God made us with certain parts that fit together and we should only have a blessed emotional bond with people of the opposite gender then why would we be able to reach orgasm having sex with someone of the same gender.
Sex is a biological tool for bonding. It is also a social tool. Physical attention and affection is a part of who we are as human beings. It is a big part of what brings us together. Any physical affection forms a bond between people whether it is drunkenly at a party with that guy you just met who may or may not be named Steve or a parent to their beloved child there is a bond created. Throughout history the societies that we look upon to be the most virtuous actually valued homosexual relationships. The Greeks valued the relationship between men to be the highest honored physical relationship, not to say they didn’t value male and female relationships those were very important in childbearing. In Victorian times, nostalgically remembered as very sexually stifling moral times the friendships between women were highly idealized. So much that families often saved the letters between mother’s and their dear female friends. These letters would be cherished as wonderfully romantic if written between a modern man and woman. “Perfectly respectable Victorian women wrote to each other in terms such as these: ‘I hope for you so much, and feel so eager for you… that the expectation once more to see your face again, makes me feel hot and feverish’ They recorded the ‘furnace blast’ of their ‘passionate attachments’ to each other, extolled in each other’s ‘sweet soft lips’ and ‘lily-white hands,’ and counted the hours until they could lie in bed, ‘caressing’ each other again. They carved their initials into trees, set flowers in front of one another’s portraits, danced together, kissed, held hands, and endured intense jealousies over rivals or small slights” (Coontz 1992)
Yet these are acts that would today be viewed by many people as immoral or unnatural. It just amazes me that simple acts of affection are deemed ungodly. Our bodies weren’t made solely for our species’ reproduction. If you hold that view than I have no argument that would make it through your head. Thinking about humans as social creatures where we are designed to bond through physical acts I cannot say homosexuality is wrong. Physical bonding is a very big part of human sexuality and historically has been shown as such. I cannot see anything wrong with two people who care about each other bonding physically. No one is hurting anyone and sense we’ve already determined that sex, even within marriage, is not used for childbearing alone I honestly cannot see where the problem lies.
Where I can see a problem is our culture today. Sex is pushed on kids as if its not a big thing. This is the generation of casual sex, it means nothing, there are really no boundaries or rules to how you have to treat someone that you have had sex with. Sex has become completely detached from love. The problem here is that it goes against our nature. As social creatures we bond with each other physically and emotionally. We are destroying our ability to have strong emotional attachments to our sexual partners by having sex with multiple people and repressing our natural urge to be bonded with them emotionally as well. I’m not saying people should mate for life or wait till marriage those are other arguments entirely. What I am saying is that this generation is one who’s relationships are going to suffer because of the disconnect between sex and emotion that we have socially constructed to sell everything from work boots to fancy cars. I think that this problem is one we should be addressing in schools. I think that this idea of attachment is something we should be teaching our children rather than shoving the romantic ideal of heterosexual love, often portrayed by generic stereotypical unhealthy human beings in an unbalanced relationship, down their throats while telling them that their gay neighbors are going to hell.

Something that has always pissed me off on a slight other note:
Christian men are allowed these uncontrollable sexual urges that women have to protect them from by covering our bodies and hiding ourselves.
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[10 Feb 2009|03:29pm]
:)

academically triumphant!

KICKASS SOCIOLOGY OUTLINE (spencer vs marx on social change)
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[04 Nov 2008|10:46pm]
I AM SO STOKED... nothing can compare to my happiness at Obama's victory!
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[02 Oct 2008|12:29am]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3exzMPT4nGI (tough guise)
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBCyx_13rgE) [media images of men]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqHYeCLBG6s&feature=related [sex/drugs/alcohol]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ufHrVyVgwRg&feature=related [killing us softly]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C7143sc_HbU&feature=related [thinness]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHIW9iRMSqY (http://media.www.gsusignal.com/media/storage/paper924/news/2002/03/26/Urbanite/A.War.Zone.Erupts.On.The.Streets.In.Provocative.Documentary-1758461.shtml)
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[27 May 2008|07:14pm]
i hate it here.
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[04 May 2008|08:13pm]
I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU
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[14 Mar 2008|12:48pm]
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[14 Mar 2008|12:45pm]
19th birthday... a filler age... doesn't really mean anything
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[25 Feb 2008|09:35am]
i fucked up this weekend on ALL counts. but i think i'm recovering well.

got to go wake cody up and get my books back to study for soc.
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[24 Feb 2008|08:57am]
last night was hella weird...

good though i think. i dunno. i'm crazy
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[13 Feb 2008|12:22pm]
You know, life can be so randomly beautiful

I keep going right back to the one thing that I need to walk away from



i guess i just got tired of always
being the last thing on your mind.

I wish I could just find people that would fight me
and scream their life into my face.

"I'VE MADE MISTAKES, I'M OUT OF CONTROL, AND AT TIMES I'M HARD TO HANDLE.. BUT IF YOU CAN HANDLE ME AT MY WORST, THEN YOU DESERVE ME AT MY BEST" - MARILYN MONROE

Cigarettes and chocolate milk
These are just a couple of my cravings
Everything it seems I likes a little bit stronger
A little bit thicker, a little bit harmful for me
And then there’s those other things
Which for several reasons we wont mention
Everything about ‘em is a little bit stranger, a little bit harder
A little bit deadly


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Some days ... the whole world seems upside down. And then somehow... it rights itself again [11 Dec 2007|12:58am]
NEXT SEMESTER:
asian philosophy
communications
intro to sociology
social issues
rugby
english 200

*candy flippage*

TODAY:
belly button piercing
declining JD
turning in logic final
working with english class
pharmacy

TOMORROW:
make deviled eggs
potluck
sell back my books
chill
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And you’re probably holding hands with some skinny pretty girl who likes to talk about herself [23 Oct 2007|10:14am]
"let's just drink to get drunk
and tell each other everything.
for a drunk mind speaks a sober heart.
then we can go on pretending like nothing did happen.
because the truth is, i've never fallen so hard.
and i don't think i could deal with the thought of rejection.
so let's just go on, blaming the shots of vodka on our drunken minds
and live tonight like it was our last."

"if girls need to defend each other while they drink, sex is the threat we need to protect eachother from. the thing i am discovering about girldom is, in the end, nobody cares if you are a drunk an anorexic, a drop out, a runaway, a dope feind, or a psychotic. these things aren't regaled, but they are allowed. with the right amount of therapy or religion, or pharmaceuticals, they can be remedied and passed off as life stages. that is, as long as you are still a virgin. to be a whore is to be unsalvageable."

"andrea dworkin said most people see intercourse as a private act, but it's actually a social act because men are sexually predatory in life and women are sexually manipulative"
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[18 Oct 2007|03:56pm]
i think i'm fucked in the head.
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I DON'T want to feel like this [27 Aug 2007|08:39pm]
Inside-out, upside-down,
Twisting beside myself.
Stop that now,
'Cause you and I were never meant to be.
I think you'd better leave.
It's not safe in here.
I feel a weakness coming on.


Alright then, (alright then.)
I could keep your number for a rainy day.
That's where this ends.
No mistakes no misbehaving.
I was doing so well.
Could we just be friends?
I feel a weakness coming on.


It's not meant to be like this.
Not what I planned at all.
I don't want to feel like this.
Yeah.
No it's not meant to be like this.
Not what I planned at all.
I don't want to feel like this.
So that makes it all your fault.


Inside-out, upside-down,
Twisting beside myself.
Stop that now.
You're as close as it gets
Without touching me.
Oh now don't make it harder
Than it already is.
I feel a weakness coming on.

It's not meant to be like this.
Not what I planned at all.
I don't want to feel like this.
Yeah.
No it's not meant to be like this.
Not what I planned at all.
I don't want to feel like this.
So that makes it all your fault.


Big trouble losing control.
Primary resistance at a critical low.
on the double gotta get a hold.
Point of no return one second to go.


No response on any level,
Red-alert this vessel's under seige.
Total overload all systems down they've got control.
There's no way out.
We are surrounded.
Give in, give in and relish every minute of it.


Freeze or make it forever.
I feel a weakness coming on.

It’s not meant to be like this,
Not what I planned at all.
I don’t want to feel like this.
Yeah.
No it’s not meant to be like this,
It's just what I don't need.
Why make me feel like this?
It's definitely all your fault.


Feel like this la la la la la la la la
It’s all your fault (feel like this) la la la la la la la la
It’s all your fault (feel like this) la la la la la la la la
It’s all your fault (feel like this) la la la la la la la la
It’s all your fault.
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[21 Aug 2007|06:03pm]
i love it here!
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[21 Aug 2007|06:03pm]
i love it here!
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life the universe everything [07 Aug 2007|11:36pm]
[ mood | artistic ]

honduras was awesome. I'm leaving a week from today for humboldt. and i'm leaving thursday for kern. i'm sad because i'm currently at a place where i'm really content and everything is going good i've been really happy and around people who make me happy lately and i'm going to miss every one of them. i'm also going to miss everyone from school who i feel like i'm about to go back and see but i won't. i mean the bench people especially i love them peoples and i miss them a lot. but have been loving work and the people i've been around too its just been really good lately and i'm very sad to leave. but i'm also excited to get out of the house even though i'm kinda gonna miss zach i mean i sort of want to be here to help him grow up and stuff.

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[21 Jun 2007|08:00pm]
graduated
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[18 Jun 2007|09:19pm]
yay for not being grounded!
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